It was last week that we went on a vacation to the Nilgiris. As things were getting back to normal, we had planned a vacation and traveled using public transport, unlike the short trips earlier in the safety of our car in between the waves of the pandemic. The kids had boarded a plane after nearly three years. My husband and I were fortunate enough to go on a short vacation a few months back. Here are a couple of things I felt were different this time in our vacation.
Just as drought makes you value rain; scarcity makes you appreciate gratification. All of us treasured each moment of our trip together.
On one of the days, my kids (especially the younger one) did not want to go for any sightseeing as they just wanted to relax at the resort. My husband was keen and enthusiastic to show them the places around. My son did not say anything but was visibly sad as we asked him to come with us, and he had to step out of the resort. Trying to find a way to balance things, I told my husband (when kids were not around) that instead of covering four places, we could cover two and come back early so that kids also get some time to enjoy what they want- “Simply Relax and do nothing”. The kids were happy beyond words, and my younger son even embraced me as he felt extremely valued.
We all loved coming back early evening. The kids relaxed on the hammock, happily chatting with each other and playing with two pet cats at the resort. While I picked up a book to read, my husband took to sketching after a long time. Kids relished the hot chocolate while we got some time to enjoy coffee together. It was a surreal evening, without any doubt.
I feel that everyone has their idea of a vacation that may be different but needs to be valued. Sometimes we need to slow down to understand the others’ verbal and nonverbal cues. It is all about the tiny adjustments we need to make to enjoy ourselves as a family.
As a mindfulness coach, what I have learned and try to embody in my everyday practice is that being mindful has positive ripple effects. Being mindful in our interaction with other people builds our attentional skills and of others as well. Being present and flexible helps in the subtle strengthening of equanimity and certainly brings a positive loop to our interactions.
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