The Year That Was…

Life is not obliged to turn the way we plan, and this year has surely proved it. For almost everyone the way we have been living our lives has changed this year.

While reflecting on the year gone by is what most people normally do during the last few days or last month of the year, this year has been a bit different. Beginning the first quarter itself, it gave everyone ample time, opportunity, and moments to pause and reflect on many occasions.

For many it was a year when we started to question our priorities and may be got the time to set them right. For some, it harbored doubts about the path they had chosen and making the decision to take that conscious call to start all over again, taking that first courageous step to move on to more satisfying pursuits.

2020 was a year when even the small vendors and businesses had to make themselves technology ready to cope up with the sudden need for digitization. Same way even consumers had to adapt to this change. I see many elderly people (including my parents) using Paytm, G Pay and other online payment modes and getting accustomed to Online shopping portals.

According to me, the education sector has been the one which was the quickest to adapt to the changing times of the Online Virtual world we were forced to be in. The efforts by the teachers, supporting staff and not to forget the kids, has really been commendable. It was really hard for the kids who were all of a sudden confined to their homes; yet they adjusted quickly.

For some it was the realisation that rather than continuing with some bitter and awkward relationships, situations, jobs, social setup, etc., it was better to call it quits and move on for the long-term benefit and mental peace of all. Mental Health and Mindfulness seemed to be the buzz words with so much emphasis than ever before.

There were moments we were struggling to make sense of what ambiguous situation we were forced into due to the lock-down. Many a times there were questions thrown at us by our kids in an undisguised curiosity & anxiety, which we sometimes failed to answer. These questions surely made us ponder deeply and really search for a good rationale. Questions as to what was going to happen next or how long the pandemic would last, reasonable questions to which we had no satisfying answer.

There were moments of guilt making me question what we were leaving for the next generation. This year we have realised that we could easily do away with old ways of wasteful, unnecessary & irresponsible consumption and instead manage with what we already have. Mindful consumption is what I had started practicing few months prior to Covid as well. I am personally very happy and proud of the fact that I did not incur any expense on buying clothes this year 😊

We also realized that humans have a huge amount of resilience, we adapted ourselves to the situation be it working remotely, taking extra precautions, dropping our trips to malls, living without those luxury vacations and indulging in eating out.  In summary, we all have the strength to face what life asks of us and adapt to it.

To sum up, this year gave us a mixture of feelings some of which are hard to articulate. Should we be fearful or courageous, be home bound or roam around to the point of caring no longer, the new situation added to the responsibility not only for self, but towards people we get in contact with.

Despite everything that is happening, I personally do feel this is not the new normal. This is an interim period where we must ponder and reflect on how we would want to live our lives, in the post Covid era. We should thus define the “new normal” ourselves.

To sum up, 2020 has surely provided us the ability to appreciate the blessings that were right in front of us, but we always chose to ignore or rather take for granted. This may not be a great year for many in ways more than one. However, looking back, I have immense gratitude for the silver linings which have been abundant….!

कुछ दिनों से…

पक्षी तो पहले भी चहचहाते होंगे

या शायद चीख कर कुछ कहते भी हों 

हमनें कुछ ही दिनों से सुनना शुरू किया है

हाँ, कुछ दिनों से आसमान नीला सा ज़रूर दिखने लगा है 

कुछ दिनों से रूठों को मनाने का मन करता है

और जो रिश्ते  पास हैं उन्हें संजो कर रखने का मन करता है 

कुछ दिनों से आत्ममंथन की चाह  है

कुछ दोनों से रब ने जो दिया उसका शुक्र मनाने का मन करता है 

और अपने गुनाहों की माफ़ी मांगने का मन करता है 

कहते हैं माफ़ करना वाले का दिल बहुत बड़ा होता है

तो कुदरत तू भी हम पर कर दे एक उपकार 

और हम ये वादा ज़रूर करते हैं फिर उसी राह पर नहीं जायेंगे

खुद भी संभलेंगे और आने वाली पीढ़ी कोएक बेहतर जहान की सौगात देकर जायेंगे

Entangled

When the mind is entangled

With thoughts, worries and pain

Past regrets, we cannot change

Anxiety of the future, we cannot see

During such moments of chaos and confusion

We are desperate to find an immediate solution

Break the pattern and pause to reflect

Letting go will keep the anxiety under check

Do not hold too tightly

Let the ones who want to go, go

For life will go on for the world without them

But holding on for long will only create mayhem

There is so much more to life each day

Life is fun if we keep the negativity away…!

***This poem is from my book Strings-A Collection of Poems and Micro Fiction

Preparing kids for a digital world

Technology has changed every aspect of our life and become an integral part of it. If you see the current pandemic environment, technology has helped all of us connect with each other and conduct our business remotely. The digital wave is here to stay, and a basic understanding of software and coding is the need of the day specially for the kids. Hence, there is a need to expose a child’s brain to both logical and creative sides through age appropriate interventions.

I was talking to my friend the other day. During the discussion, we spoke about how to keep the kids engaged productively during the current pandemic as they are completely home-bound. She told me about her son attending the Coding classes from Vedantu. She seemed to be happy and satisfied as her son was thoroughly enjoying the classes. This encouraged me to enroll my kid for a trial class as I really wanted to give him an opportunity to explore and experience the world of coding.

While browsing Vedantu’s website, I was pleasantly surprised to see that there was no fixed schedule even for the trial class, and I could schedule it as per my convenience. After booking my slot, I got the details to login via SMS. I even got a reminder call to ensure our availability.

The class was a one-on-one basis to ensure personalized and undivided attention. Before starting the session, the teacher spoke to me and introduced herself. The teaching was entirely activity based and simplified. After each concept was explained, my kid was asked to do an activity to ensure he understood the concept well. I realised Vedantu’s emphasis is on project-based learning during the first session itself. The teacher was very experienced and friendly with my kid and really made him at ease. The pace of the session was perfectly aligned to my kid’s age. The teacher was also able to resolve my kid’s doubts instantly. He was fully engaged throughout the session and did not want it to end. After the class, the teacher even had a closing chat with me to know if I had any questions.

Creating something on your own always gives you a sense of pride and immense satisfaction. By the end of just the first class, my son was able to create a mobile application on his own. He was thrilled with the outcome and wanted to enroll at the earliest.

Kids learn better and faster when they are young. I am sure learning through this avenue will help prepare my kid for an ever-evolving digital future where technology will impact them immensely in both personal and professional life. When children learn to code, and that too in a playful manner, they develop an ability to be logical and creative at the same time. 

To top it all, the best part about these online classes is that the teaching is easily accessible at the comfort of our home.

So, Mommies, do let your kids experience the class and continue the journey of learning. They will surely come back wanting for more. The classes will enable them to dive deeper and learn while having fun. 

This blog was published as a sponsored post on Mompresso – https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/a-memory-here-an-emotion-there/article/preparing-kids-for-a-digital-world-4dq01nxwh36t

Different yet beautiful Diwali…

एक दिवाली  ऐसी  भी

चलो  इस  बार  मनाएं

भीड़  से  दूर  पर  खुद  के  पास

होने  का  अनुभव  कर  पाएं

एक दिवाली  ऐसी  भी

चलो  इस  बार  मनाएं

अपने लिए बस थोड़ा सा कम

किसी ज़रूरतमंद के लिए थोड़ा सा कुछ खरीद पाएं

एक दिवाली  ऐसी  भी

चलो  इस  बार  मनाएं

बाहर  की सफाई के  साथ  साथ

अंदर  से  भी  मन  को  साफ़  कर  पाएं

एक दिवाली  ऐसी  भी

चलो  इस  बार  मनाएं

              -गुंजन कपूर

Book Review: “Raising Kids with Hope and Wonder in Times of a Pandemic and Climate Change”

I chose to read this book because of the importance it lays on raising resilient kids, especially in the extraordinary times we all are in. The book is written by famous author and columnist Ms. Kiran Manral and starts with a rather angsty conversation between her and sixteen-year-old son. “Are we all going to die?” is what he asks the author.

We all have faced such type of questions from our kids at one time or another. There are lot of other things as well in the book that one can resonate with as a parent. I am a mother of two boys, eleven and nine. My elder one is up to speed with the latest news (his general awareness is better than his Mom’s 😊).

The author talks about several relevant issues such as climate change which is the elephant in the room, we all should have acknowledged way back and its impact on us. We all were very happy to be in denial mode when the pandemic hit China thinking this is not going to happen to us. In fact, like most people, I had booked our tickets for the summer vacations.

Kiran touches the unprecedented experiences we had all gone through during the lockdown. She also talks about accepting the new normal (which is interestingly not defined till today!) and the sudden way of life we all are forced to be living in since the outbreak of Covid 19. One good thing that has come out of this madness is the much needed pause it has given, compelling us to turn inward.

The author also talks about the lack of physical activity and increase in screen time and what can we as parents do about it. Well I could resonate with the ideas as I have been following some of them too. My boys do contribute to the age appropriate household chores making them take ownership of the work and feel responsible too. I did enrol my kids for an Online Yoga and breathing Program in July itself. They have learnt few breathing practices which they now continue to do on their own.

The uncertainty of how long we have to live like this does create anxiety. The author rightly says that we must, as a parent, first address our own anxiety by being positive. This attitude will help our children too. She also stresses on answering the kids questions honestly.

Manral stresses the need for discussing actions which we can own and act on. This will give kids a sense of ownership and control, besides raising their awareness and hope.

“Look to the past and be assured that humankind has survived in worse conditions”-This thought is very important to give our kids “hope” amidst all the negativity.

Looking for the benefits in lockdown, I do have a long personal list here. Right from the precious time I am getting to spend with my family, doing the household chores together, taking additional responsibility if one member is pressed for time because of other commitments, enjoying the simple pleasures of life, learning to manage with what is available, mindful of our actions and their impact on others.

The e-book is available online, go ahead and enjoy the read !

My Kids first brush with baldness…!!!

They say it takes a village to raise a child and I say, maybe we require two for his first Mundan ceremony. More so when it is for two kids together. It is an important ritual in India and the ceremony is performed during the first or third year of a child’s life (mostly odd years). It is said that this ceremony helps to free the person from the last birth and make a new beginning in this birth. And as per our family rituals, if the mother is pregnant than the elder child can’t have this ceremony. So, after I had my second delivery, we had to get this done for both my kids together.

We stay in Hyderabad and since most of our relatives are in Delhi, we had the ceremony in Delhi. It was around Diwali when the cold weather begins to set in. Though we wanted to keep it a simple affair but given the number of relatives we have in Delhi we could not bring down the list to below seventy. The day of ceremony arrived, and we were all set.  The guests had come in.

A Panditji was called to perform the rituals and a barber was there too. Me and my husband were sitting with the kids in our lap. The first touch of blade on my elder son’s head and I felt the pain. My elder one had beautiful locks grown in the last three years, so it has heart wrenching to see him lose them in front of my eyes. My son, however, was very patient and cool during the entire process.

My younger one was just a year old and I thought he would feel the blade more because the area was sensitive. He started crying and soon I had tears rolling down my eyes too. This made everyone emotional too including my husband.

The experience might have been painful for the kids (may be only the younger one) and me at that moment, but today, they remember it as an important day in their life when they look back at the photographs.

Thank you for always being there…!!!

You are my favorite place to go

When my mind searches for peace
Or maybe thinks of some mischief

When I want to shout or scream
Or maybe celebrate a small win

When I want to shed some tears
Or maybe introspect for internal repair

We may not talk for days at end
But pick up right where we left off to blend

Over years I have realised one thing
That one good friend is equal to a thousand blessings…

As long as the relationship lives in the heart
True friends will never part…!!!

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